What do you do when a kindergartener gets in trouble at school

Give the misbehaving student a chance to respond positively by explaining not only what he or she is doing wrong, but also what he or she can do to correct it. Never resort to blame or ridicule. Avoid win-lose conflicts. Emphasize problem-solving instead of punishment.

Don’t punish your child.

Your child isn’t bad, and you’re not bad for having a child with a behavior problem; these things just happen.” Punishment for bad behavior will only make your child feel terrible about himself and prolong the difficulty by further shutting down his thinking.

Normal Preschool Behavior

As preschoolers seek independence, it’s normal for them to argue and exercise their right to say “no.” They commonly vacillate between demanding they are a big kid who can do everything on their own, to using baby talk to declare they need help with a simple task.

Social, Emotional

By age 6, kids are getting more and more independent from their parents. They will try to show how big they are, and do things that might be dangerous. Peer acceptance becomes more important than before. They are learning to cooperate and share.

The Do’s of Disciplining a Child Who Won’t Listen

Use consistent, logical consequences. Kids need to know what to expect when they don’t listen. Listen to your child’s feelings and ask them kindly rather than in anger what’s going on. Acknowledge their side, and you can still follow through with a consequence.

Disrespectful behavior often comes down to kids having poor problem-solving skills and a lack of knowledge about how to be more respectful as they pull away. Often when kids separate from you they do it all wrong before they learn how to do it right.

Luke adds that “the most psychologically damaging thing you can say to a child is a lie that they find out later was not true. If this pattern repeats enough times, it will be very psychologically damaging.”