First dates… first impression or maybe not. In any case, it is not a reason to bring back unpleasant memories.
Normally nobody needs to tell you that your appearance, table manners and general demeanor are important on this occasion. Of course, you should also know that good care is important. Neither sloppy nor dirty is allowed.
Also, let’s not forget that with all your nerve, you might end up doing the wrong things that you never thought you were capable of.
So does that mean that once you have all of the above covered, nothing can go wrong? It may not be safe to think so.
That’s why we’ve put together a list of awkward things you don’t want to remember after that first date.
1. Make your date wait
As with any type of appointment, keeping time is a good start. Barring an unavoidable emergency, keeping someone waiting longer than expected is totally insensitive. It sends a fake message to the waiter. Being late often conveys disregard and a nonchalant attitude. It says tons on its own commitment level.
A date is mentioned, which literally means “date.” The date had been set before the date of the session. It’s only fair and you’re expected to plan it. If you must cancel please do so before the day itself and with a very good reason. Otherwise, there would be no harm in adjusting your schedule and taking advantage of the date.
For the ladies, looking good is serious business. So if it takes you hours to get the look you want, start the face bangs early enough. That way everyone wins. Also, toned-down makeup is best for formal and romantic dates.
2. Keep the phone away
Some debaters have argued that the highly prized social devices of the modern age do more harm than good when it comes to ideal communication. Some have even classified them as antisocial tools, in other words contrary to the very being for which they were created.
Imagine being deep in conversation with strangers who might be miles away or just drifting off surfing the internet while barely recognizing, if at all, the person sitting next to you on a bus. Regardless of whether it is the first date or the fiftieth, all phone distractions should be cut off. Beeps, warning signals and a constantly ringing phone disrupt a good time.
There are non-verbal communications that you should pay attention to. Things that only a one-on-one conversation can reveal. In two words: be present ”. Agreeing on the date wasn’t held at gunpoint, so just enjoy the moment.
3. Complain about everything
It might not have been a good day, but half trust me, the people you’ve met today have probably had worse. There is no wisdom in whining about everything from taxi drivers to porters to “tasteless food”. It’s good advice to know that this character is everything. Set your priorities for the moment, put the drama behind you and, for goodness sake, rejoice. Did you know that treating hospitality staff with respect is an asset to your personality?
4. Wrong direction of conversation / questions
So, what is really safe to talk about on the first date to avoid awkward memories? What always works is finding a common topic of interest. This is easier to see if there was some kind of acquaintance before the date. Otherwise, it’s cool to ask what your date likes. From there you can start a lively conversation.
The idea is to feel comfortable. This is a time to get to know someone and not necessarily to impress. With that in mind, please try not to make this a lecture, debate, or interview. Don’t ask questions you don’t feel comfortable answering yourself.
5. And who pays the bills???
Regardless of who ends up picking the tab, it’s safe and wise not to leave your house with an empty wallet or pocket. In fact, it’s thoughtful to offer or assume you’d care. Plus, you never know what unpleasant surprises might turn up. Have cash or credit/debit cards ready. With mutual understanding, it really isn’t a crime to pay both bills.