Roxane Gay is an American writer, professor, editor, and social commentator. Gay is the author of The New York Times’ best-selling essay collection Bad Feminist, as well as the short story collection Ayiti, the novel An Untamed State, the short story collection Difficult Women, and the memoir Hunger.
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Gay is bisexual. In October 2019, she became engaged to artist and writer Debbie Millman. In August 2020, Gay revealed that they had eloped.
In 2017, Debbie emailed me to ask me to appear on her podcast, Design Matters. I didn’t know who she was, so I told her to contact my publicist.
Then Debbie sent me a lovely email talking about the impact [my 2017 memoir] Hunger had had on her. Several emails later, she asked me out on a date. The way she phrased it was adorable, and she was persistent, so I agreed to have dinner with her the next time I was in New York.
I was in New York for a book event in October 2018 and we arranged to have dinner after that. I didn’t know what she looked like, so at the book signing afterward, I wondered if each woman was her.
She ended up being the last person in line, and I was like, “Wow, she’s hot!” We had a beautiful dinner and when we go out onto the street, she asked if she could kiss me, which was sweet and sexy, and romantic.