Whenever we face a big question- Do you want to be married? Most African women (Kenyan ladies are not left out) don’t find it difficult to answer. This would be largely due to the extreme values Africans place on marriage.
Even so, you will find that 21st-century African women would find it extremely difficult to answer this lingering question. Over the years, the value of marriage has declined sharply, even in African societies. If you’ve ever wondered why more and more Kenyan ladies are still single, here’s the answer to the big “why”.
Read on to see how some of the bad behaviors Kenyan ladies need to drop in order for them to agree to the dress.
1. They are the men now
Okay, we know that a strong and confident woman always attracts people’s admiration, but nobody wants an extremely strong woman without a soft spot. If it’s good for you to behave like a man at work, school, etc., incorporating it into your personal life may not work quite as well. You need to switch to your ladylike personality when you’re not at work, school, or church where it works better. Stop being that boss or that woman who brings work to the dinner table.
Such women take every opportunity to talk about work, school and office. Let your feminine personality shine through every minute, especially when you’re with friends, so they don’t feel intimidated. Don’t feel overjoyed when your girlfriends admire your bossy attitude. Think about how this is affecting the man in your life or someone you don’t already know. No man wants to be with a woman who is as strong as he is. So take it easy, but don’t be too vulnerable.
2. You focus more on yourself
Most Kenyan women who are still married tend to focus a lot of attention on themselves. They think about their looks, outfits and many other little things and pay less attention to the people around them, especially the men in their lives.
In fact, some of them don’t really care. They expect the man to be the ultimate risk taker. Yes! They open their curious eyes and look for faults while contributing less to the relationship. Some even go so far as to want to know everything about the man, and yet they keep their personal information strictly in check. It doesn’t work that way darling, there should be a balance. You really have to put yourself out there and take some of the risks too.
3. You dislike certain types of men
The simple truth is that ladies in general can be very discriminatory towards certain types of men. By that I mean how badly they treat men they don’t see as prospects. You forget that when the real prospect comes along and is interested in you, they might ask some questions about you. Then everything will now turn to how you treat men in general. A lot of women forget that guys, unlike women, don’t make it a secret when they like and want someone. They tell friends about it without having to confess as the ladies. While telling friends about it, they ask people, especially others who know little or a lot about you, because they think they’re the ones who can tell them exactly how it is. If you’re the type
4. High expectations with little hard work
Many women in Kenya want to get the best man. They want someone who works and saves all of their income while they also make income and spend an insane percentage on hair, makeup, cosmetics, bags, shoes, etc. to dress them up. You want a godly man but you have yet to build your faith. You should start lowering your standards if you really want to approve of the white dress.
5. They believe that their looks will take them far
Here’s the gist, beauty pays well but still isn’t everything. Although being beautiful is a virtue, humility and hard work are the real deal. Don’t always think about marrying a rich man or a man with a really, really good job who would solve all your problems. This is the same as living in a fantasy world and will definitely affect your decisions in real life. If you’re really tired of standing in the endless bride-to-be lineage, you really need to focus less on your beauty, work hard for yourself, and be more realistic.
Remember that your relationship as a woman does not define you. In other words, being single doesn’t make you weak or indicate that you’ve been doing the wrong things for a long time. This article is just pointing out what you can do without paying a heavy price for marriage as if it were something you can buy at the store.
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